"I Don't Know"

There’s this idea that we’re always supposed to seek advice.

“Get another opinion.”
“Talk it through.”
“Make sure you’re not making a decision alone.”

And while that works beautifully for some people… I’m not entirely sure it works for me.

Because here’s the thing no one talks about: when you’re already an overthinker, adding more voices to the room doesn’t bring clarity — it brings noise.

I don’t struggle with a lack of options. I struggle with having too many. Every opinion, every perspective, every “well have you thought about…” doesn’t just sit lightly in my brain. It settles in. It echoes. It expands. And suddenly what was once a simple decision feels like a 37-tab browser open in my mind, each one demanding attention.

People tell you to listen to others before making a final decision so you have options.

But what happens when you already see every possible option?
What happens when your brain has already mapped out ten outcomes, five backup plans, and three worst-case scenarios?

For someone like me — someone who carries stress quietly, who processes deeply, who feels everything intensely — too many opinions can actually hinder clarity instead of helping it.

And maybe the hardest part?

It doesn’t look like I’m overwhelmed.

I’m energized. I’m smiling. I’m talking. I’m planning.
But internally, I’m calculating. I’m analyzing. I’m bracing.

I especially hate the question, “What’s next?”

Because the honest answer is… I don’t know.

And that should be okay.

But when you’re surrounded by other people’s expectations, timelines, projections, and advice, “I don’t know” can start to feel like failure instead of freedom.

Sometimes I don’t need another opinion.

Sometimes I need quiet.

Sometimes I need space to hear my own thoughts before I add anyone else’s to the mix.

There is a difference between wise counsel and mental overload.

There is a difference between community and confusion.

And I’m learning that protecting my peace sometimes means limiting the number of voices I let shape my decisions.

Not because I don’t value others.

But because I’m learning to value myself, too.

Maybe clarity doesn’t always come from gathering more input.
Maybe sometimes it comes from trusting the voice that’s been there all along — even if it says, “I don’t know yet.”

And maybe… that’s enough.

You don't know this yet.........But I love you my dear friend, 

Love Rae Rae :)